Bring Your Lamp

Yom Kippur Address delivered by RS President Michael Hauptman on September 30, 2017.

Language has always been an interest of mine; how language evolves, where words come from and how language provides a window into a society or culture.  So, a book I read recently, Aphrodite and the Rabbis by Burton Visotzky, really satisfied my tendency to be a bit of a word nerd. The author documents how after the destruction of the Second Temple, Judaism reinvented itself as a religion based heavily on Greco-Roman civilization, adopting their stories, ritual and language to create a Jewish liturgy and culture that we still practice today.  In fact, Jews at that time were more likely to speak Greek than Hebrew.

In one of his more fascinating examples, Visotzky describes how the Passover Seder as we all know it, borrows liberally from the Greek symposia, cocktail parties where the Greek literati got together to tell stories and socialize.  A symposium, a Greek word meaning “to drink together” involved many glasses of wine and many of the familiar foods that you find on your Seder plate. Diners reclined on pillows and afterwards, there would be entertainment: api komias—Greek for to the comedians! – perhaps not much to do with hiding matzoh from children.

Greek and Roman references continue to permeate our modern culture through our art, music, architecture and language.  Take the word “philanthropy”, Greek for “love of people”. An interpretation of that sentiment is reflected in our Torah, Parsha Terumah , where God tells Moses to “accept gifts…from every person whose heart so moves him”,  confirming that giving is an emotional act that invokes a depth of feeling as an incentive to give. 

It is said that philanthropy provides an opportunity for a donor to fulfill their dreams and to live more Jewishly by giving to a cause they love.

There are congregants sitting among us today whose love of this community along with their passion for young children inspired them to fulfill their dream of creating a Jewish early learning center at Rodeph Shalom.  There are congregants here today whose love of this congregation and their interest in ensuring a Jewish education for our children compelled them to provide generous support for our religious school.  And there are congregational families here whose love of music and of the people of this synagogue has moved them to give us all a gift of music at Shabbat services every week.  

There’s a story I’d like to share that was told by Rabbi Alan Rabishaw of Temple Or Rishon in California. 

A wealthy nobleman, who lived in a small Jewish village, was getting on in years, and he wanted to create a lasting legacy for the people whom he loved so dearly. He decided that he would construct the most perfect synagogue as his special gift to the community. He hired the best architect in town who produced a magnificent design. The nobleman shared with everyone his dream that this place would reflect the very best that he had to give.  Finally, the new synagogue was completed. The doors were opened and the people flooded in. After looking around at the darkened new building, someone asked, “But, where are the lamps? Where will the light come from?”

The nobleman pointed to rows of elegant iron hooks that lined each wall of the synagogue.

Then he gave each family a lamp with a ring at its top. “You must bring these lamps when you come to the synagogue,” he told them. “Whenever you are not here, your part of the synagogue will be dark, but when you come, when you participate, and when you contribute, your contribution will illuminate our building.”

If you look closely, you will find hooks all over our building.  Is your connection to Reform Judaism through social justice?  We have hooks for that. How about food equality?  There’s a hook for that, too.  Is your passion Jewish art, historic preservation, caring community, lifelong learning?  We have hooks for every member of our congregation.

Bring your lamp.  Find your hook.  Light up this building with your presence, your participation, your passion and your philanthropy – your “love of people” of this congregation. Make Rodeph Shalom your philanthropic priority, and the light from our building will be a brilliant beacon for this city and the entire Jewish community.

As we read in Siddur Sim Shalom, “May the One who blessed our ancestors bless those who unite to establish synagogues for prayer, and those who enter them to pray, and those who give funds for heat and light, and wine for Kiddush, bread for the travelers, charity for the poor and all who devote themselves to the needs of the community and to all of Israel.”  Amen.

 

Our Love is All of God’s Money: Avinu Malkeinu and the Divine Economy

It sounds like a classic nightmare. I wake up late and rush to class, only to find that we have an exam for which I had totally forgotten to study. With sweat running down my neck, in a state of sheer panic, I look down at the sheet of paper on my desk not knowing a single answer…

Unfortunately, this was not a dream, and in fact, reality during my senior year of college in a Medieval Philosophy class. And so, bereft of options, like so many of my ancestors before me, I began to pray, “Dear God, if you could just help me pass this test, I promise to study so hard in the future and be a really good person…”

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I Am Becoming Who I Am*: Transformation in Our Times of Change (Rosh Hashanah 2017)

In all of my years preaching from our bimah, I think the sermon about which I have received the most response is the one that described my character revealing challenges in the Whole Foods parking lot.  Speaking of which: What do you think of the new Whole Foods?  I know that many of you shop there, because I see you there all the time.  Even after a year of the new lay-out and new procedures, the new Whole Foods still unsettles me.  When I’ve observed my discomfort I’ve thought of you.  I’ve thought, every time congregants tell me that change in something as meaningful as synagogue life is difficult, I need to remember this — how disoriented I can feel about something so simple, as a new version of my grocery store.  Change– change of all kinds– is hard.  Continue reading

Our Concealed Shortcomings: On Bias and Race

delivered by Rabbi Jill Maderer, Yom Kippur, Congregation Rodeph Shalom     

A story I love, from Rabbi Nachman of Brazslav.  A young woman visits her family and shares that she has become a master in the art of menorah making. She asks her parents to invite all of the other artisans in town to come see her masterpiece.  So all of the finest crafters come to view the menorah.  Later, the daughter asks her parents, “What did they think?” The parents reply, “We’re sorry to say, all of your fellow lamp-makers described a different flaw.” “Yes,” replies the daughter, “but that is the secret! They all say it was flawed, but what nobody realizes is this: Each sees a different part as blemished, but overlooks the mistakes that he himself would make.  You see, I made the menorah in this way on purpose — replete with deficiencies — in order to demonstrate that all of us have shortcomings.

Rabbi Nachman’s parable is drawn from the Psalmist, who calls to God: “Alumenu limor panecha” (Ps 90). “You can see our concealed darkness; You can see our concealed shortcomings, in the light of Your face.” God can see our shortcomings.Continue reading

High Holiday Services for Families with Young Children

Rodeph Shalom’s High Holy Days Services Designed for Families with Young Children

Contemporary Multi-generational Morning Services

Requires a “pass”; please contact Catherine Fischer cfischer@rodephshalom.org.

Rosh Hashanah: Monday, October 3, 8:30 am

Yom Kippur: Wednesday, October 12, 8:30 am

A full service for adults; yet a family-friendly atmosphere with children of all ages. Clergy, congregational choir, and guitar lead accessible music, encouraging participants to join in. Designed for all ages, the informality provides a comfortable setting for families with young children and there are activities for the children during the sermon.

 

Tashlich Service at Fairmount Waterworks
Monday, October 3, 1:30-2:00pm
640 Water Works Drive Philadelphia, PA 19130
Cast away your sins with breadcrumbs.  Open to all.

                      

Afternoon Mini-Services for Families

Open to the community; no pass needed, please just bring photo ID for security.

Rosh Hashanah: Monday, October 3, 3:00 pm
Yom Kippur: Wednesday, October 12, 1:30 pm

A very brief service for families of very young children and their parents and grandparents.

 

 

Climbing into Their Skin: To Cultivate Abundant Kindness

delivered by Rabbi Jill Maderer Yom Kippur afternoon    

A man backs his car out of the driveway, and stops short to avoid running into a young boy, riding his skateboard on the sidewalk.  Annoyed, the man drives to the local cafe to pick up his morning coffee, and a woman parks her car in the spot he was eyeing.  Irritated, he walks into the store, only to see he needs to stand on a long line.  When he finally makes it to the front of the line, the person who was standing in front of him, returns to add a cookie to his order.  Exasperated, as if the world around him is irresponsible, incompetent and inconsiderate of his needs, the man sits down to wait for his coffee, and to reflect on how the world is everyone else’s oyster.

At that moment a stranger approaches him, and silently hands him a pair of eyeglasses.  When the man slides the glasses onto his face, his perspective changes.  Through this magical eyewear, the man can view a caption that follows each person in sight. Backtracking through his morning, he starts to see differently.Continue reading

From Personal Lives to the Jewish Community in the Wake of the Iran Deal: If We Can Harm, We Can Heal

 

delivered by Rabbi Jill Maderer Yom Kippur morning       

So… Who lives in the Pope traffic box?  Me, too.   Although logistically complicated, I appreciate that this is a momentous occasion, for our Catholic friends and for our city, and I am intrigued about how we in the Jewish community might find meaning in the Pope’s visit.

On this sacred day, we open to atonement, change, repair. Pope Francis serves as an extraordinary model of faith in repair.Continue reading

High Holy Day Service Options for Families at RS

High Holy Days Services for Families with Young Children


Contemporary Multi-generational Morning Services

Requires a “pass”; please contact Catherine Fischer cfischer@rodephshalom.org to become a member or prospective member and get a pass.

Rosh Hashanah: Mon., September 14, 8:30 am

Yom Kippur: Wed., September 23, 8:30 am

A full service for adults; yet a family-friendly atmosphere with children of all ages. Clergy, congregational choir, and guitar lead accessible music, encouraging participants to join in. Designed for all ages, the informality provides a comfortable setting for families with young children and there are activities for the children during the sermon.

Tashlich Service at Fairmount Waterworks
Mon., September 14, 1:30pm
640 Water Works Drive Philadelphia, PA 19130
Cast away your sins with breadcrumbs.  Open to all.

Afternoon Mini-Service for Families

Open to the community; no charge, please just bring photo ID for security.

Rosh Hashanah: Mon., September 14, 3:00 pm
Yom Kippur: 
Wed., September 23, 8:30 am

A very brief service for families of very young children and their parents and grandparents.

As If It’s All Happening on An Airplane: Vulnerability and the High Holy Days

I believe there are some of you here who are in the dating world, hoping to meet someone special.  I thought of you when I read a recent column by Emma Court in the NY Times called, “A Millenial’s Guide to Kissing.”

It begins: “When a total stranger kissed me under the artificial lights of an airplane cabin somewhere above international waters, my first thought was of the Orthodox woman sitting to my left…The kiss, coming out of nowhere, had turned me into the heroine of a bad romance novel: heart fluttering…those blue fleece blankets had never been so sexy….Between us sprang the kind of instant intimacy fostered by open personalities in tight quarters. We spoke in spurts of our trips and what we had done during the days spent in Israel…

[Once back on the ground], I hugged him a brisk no-nonsense goodbye. We didn’t exchange numbers…… Would things have been different, if one of us had had the courage, to say something other than goodbye before heading to our trains? I only realized later why it had been such an oddly familiar feeling: My generation treats every liaison as if it is happening on an airplane. Our story wasn’t so different, after all. I wonder what we collectively lose as we try so hard not to care. We pretend that it doesn’t matter, that we have time, that because we are young we are invulnerable.” Continue reading

To Just Sit: A Spiritual Mindfulness Message on Yom Kippur Afternoon

Were you able to find a seat ok?  You may have noticed that when you enter this early part of the Yom Kippur afternoon service, it’s easy to find a place to sit!  Nestled between the crowds of Kol Nidre and Yom Kippur morning, and the crowds that will soon arrive for Yizkor and Neilah, this afternoon service tends to be our quieter moment of the day.  And yet, here you are.  Perhaps you are drawn here because your family has always made Yom Kippur a full-day experience.  Perhaps you need a place to wait out the fast.  Perhaps you are avoiding slicing tomatoes back at your house, where your family is preparing to host a break-fast. And perhaps you are here, to soak up every last potential opportunity, for introspection on Yom Kippur.

I’d like to consider with you, the role of introspection, in these hours of Yom Kippur, and beyond.  What does it mean, to sit in reflection?  Continue reading

Choosing Our Character: A Yom Kippur Message

Delivered Yom Kippur morning by Rabbi Jill Maderer

A woman sits at an airport gate, reading her book and eating a bag of cookies… begins Valerie Cox in her poem, “The Cookie Thief.”  The woman at the airport realizes the man next to her– a stranger– is sticking his hand into her bag and eating her cookies!  How dare he do such a thing?  Her row is called, she boards the airplane, settles into her seat and reaches into her handbag for her book.  And there it is.  Instead of the book, she pulls out her unopened bag of cookies.  The bag at the gate belonged to the man.  He had quietly let her stick her hand into his cookies.  She was the cookie thief!

What was this man’s disposition, that he simply allowed a stranger to share his snack?  And what was this woman’s attitude, that she assumed the worst in someone else?  How much does a response to a small everyday, situation say about who we are?  Jewish tradition teaches that both the large life turning-points and those daily small moments reveal our character, or spiritually we might say, our soul.Continue reading