Practicle Preparation for a Spiritual Yom Kippur

It almost reads like a riddle:  Q: If you fast once Yom Kippur begins, and the candlelighting at the dinner before Kol Nidre brings in the start of the Holy Day, then how do you light candles and then eat dinner?   A: On Yom Kippur, you light the candles at the END of the dinner!  To enrich your holiday with this and many other Yom Kippur customs, visit, reformjudaism.org.  And challenge yourself to discover deeper meaning in the customs this year. See you at services!

September 11, Honoring the Memory

   Psalm 23

The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.

He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.Continue reading

September is National Recovery Month

Some inspiration for National Recovery Month:

For anyone who would find strength in Jewish insights for a path of recovery, Rabbi Kerry Olitzky’s book Twelve Jewish Steps to Recovery: A Personal Guide to Turning from Alcoholism and Other Addictions.

Thank you to Emma Fiebach for “My Taglit (Discovery)” about her search for balance and spirituality in Alcoholics Anonymous and to Robert Fiebach for “The RS Caring Community Supports Recovery.

And I share my recent Bulletin article: “Everyone’s Steps to Repentance.”   Please contact me (rabbimaderer@rodephshalom.org) if you are a parent of someone struggling with addition and might be interested in participating in an upcoming parents’ support group.

Warm wishes for a sweet new year–Rabbi Jill Maderer

Everyone’s Steps to Repentance

You can picture the daily scene:  A father yells in anger as his daughter comes home in the middle of the night, after hours of drinking.  The entire household touched by her alcoholism, they begin to isolate from some friends, tell protective lies to other friends, and close down emotionally to one another.

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My Taglit (Discovery)

by Emma Fiebach

In June of 2012, the day I graduated from Drexel University, I received the most prophetic gift from our Rabbi Emeritus, Rabbi Alan D. Fuchs and his wife Carol Fuchs, Oh the Places You’ll Go, by Dr. Seuss.  I smiled at the novelty of the gift, having no imagination for what lay ahead of me in the months to come.

But let me rewind even more, to the year 2006 when I was nineteen when I stayed in a rehab facility for alcoholism to receive treatment.

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RS Caring Community Supports Recovery

by Robert Fiebach

I was at home at our house at the shore going through some accumulated mail – most of which appeared to be junk mail – when a brochure from the Jewish Community Center of Margate caught my eye. The JCC was advertising a concert and it advertised that singer songwriter Jimmy Webb would be there in a few weeks.

Why would a famous singer songwriter such as Jimmy Webb – who had written hits such as “Up, Up and Away”, a trilogy for Glenn Campbell, “Wichita Lineman”, “By The Time I Get to Phoenix” and “Galveston” – be coming to Margate, New Jersey?Continue reading

Elul Reflections: The Black Zero of Beginning

A poem by Marge Piercy:

The Head of the Year

The moon is dark tonight, a new

moon for a new year.  It is

hollow and hungers to be full.

It is the black zero of beginning.

Now you must void yourself

of injuries, insults, incursions.

Go with empty hands to those

you have hurt and make amends.

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Elul Reflections: Forgiveness

Do you have loose ends to tie up?  We all messed up this year.  This is the time to say “I forgive you.”  A grudge serves no one. Lighten your load and move on with your life.  It’s hard!  Why do you think we face our mortality in the liturgy of Yom Kippur?  To scare us into forgiveness!  This could be our last chance.  Look forward to praying together (service schedule)!

L’shanah tovah–Your RS Clergy

Elul Reflections: Apology

Do you have loose ends to tie up?  We all messed up this year.  This is the time to say “I’m sorry.”  Not a blanket email or facebook apology to all your friends, saying you’re sorry if you have offended anyone this year.  Make it real.  Show that you understand you were wrong. Maimonides teaches that repentance means recognizing our wrong, confessing it, apologizing, and changing our actions when we next have the opportunity.  It’s hard, sometimes even harsh; that’s why we confess together.  See you there.

L’shanah tovah–Your RS Clergy